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A Place to Be Quiet by Donalyn Miller
I’ve traveled continuously this summer—going from one literacy conference to the next. I’ve met thousands of teachers, librarians, and administrators gathered in auditoriums and classrooms to learn more about engaging children with reading. It’s been an inspiring summer spent talking with passionate folks about literacy. I have learned a lot and hopefully shared some ideas along the way.
I’m grateful for the work I do. I get to talk, read, and write for a living. It’s as delicious as it sounds.
I enjoy visiting new places and meeting people, but the inhumanities of travel accumulate like plaque. After weeks on the road, I miss things I take for granted at home like walking barefoot and access to decent toilet paper (I made a list of a hundred things I miss while sitting in an airport once, but that’s just for me).
Last week was a particularly awful travel week. Three delayed flights and one cancelled flight caused a cascade of other travel woes. I slept in four hotels in four separate cities—no more than 5 hours of sleep most nights. I spent an unreasonable amount of time in taxis, rental cars, and TSA checkpoints. I subsisted on coffee, Advil, protein bars, and conference banquet chicken (and red wine, if I’m being honest).
By Friday night, I splintered. After a week of being on, I needed to power off. Speaking at so many conferences, I was sick of my own voice. I was crabby and judgmental—snapping at a woman who rolled her suitcase over my foot in the security line. I prayed I could hold it together until boarding the plane where I could sleep and time-travel home. Discovering that my flight was delayed an hour, I almost lost it. Rage tweeting American Airlines felt justified in that moment, but ultimately made me feel worse. I tried scrolling through Facebook and Twitter, but scanning political news fed my fatigue and anger instead of distracting me from it.
I didn’t want to read. I wanted to go home. As magical as books are, I have never physically teleported from one airport to the next while reading one. Unable to sleep for at least another hour and worried that I would collapse into an embarrassing mess in public, I didn’t have any other options. I needed a book to make the time pass and keep myself sane. Digging a book out of my backpack, I couldn’t remember reading anything for the entire week. Ironic that I spent so much time attending literacy conferences I didn’t have time to read (or write) much. It was clear. I needed to read for my own mental health.
I spend a lot of my time convincing people that reading matters because of the outward benefits it provides—academic and professional success or social awareness and empowerment—but we cannot disregard the power reading has for the individual. I don’t mean the knowledge or skills we gain when we read. I mean the emotional and physical value of walking away from ourselves when we fall into a book. At an ALAN Conference a few years ago, John Green said, “Reading gives us a place to be quiet in a world that doesn’t give us a place for that.” In a society that demands our attention and active participation, the process of reading a book gives us all a chance to hit pause on our lives.
We are social creatures who crave relationships. We seek validation from the members of our tribe and reinforcement for our affiliations. While naysayers proclaim that social media and the Internet isolate people, I believe these tools have pushed us to be more connected than ever. There’s always another email to answer or photo to tweet. This pressure to live outwardly denies us regular opportunities to disappear into the quiet.
Reading to escape gets a bad rap—minimalized as frivolous and unimportant when compared to more measurable outcomes for reading—but running away from our lives and into a book rises to the top of the list when considering why many people enjoy reading.
For years, my students expressed how much they enjoyed daily reading time. They liked the books they read, but they appreciated the time to go somewhere else in their heads, too. I could justify to an administrator why reading supported my students’ academically and socially, but I never explained that reading helped my students escape from school for 30 minutes a day, or described why that mattered.
For people who don’t read much, I don’t know how they shut out the world when it’s always screaming, “Look at me! Interact with me! Tell me what you think about everything!” Some days, reading teaches me something I didn’t know. Some days, reading fosters my empathy for others. Some days, reading provokes action or conversation. Some days, reading breaks me down and rebuilds me into someone new.
Some days, reading helps me just stop.
**I would like to thank all of the educators who I have met this summer. You inspire me and encourage me to keep going. I am blessed to share a common mission with all of you.
**I would also like to thank John David Anderson for writing Ms. Bixby’s Last Day, which kept me from dissolving in the Charlotte Airport. I strive every day to be “one of the Good Ones” like Ms. B.
Donalyn Miller has taught fourth, fifth, and sixth grade English and Social Studies in Northeast Texas. She is the author of two books about encouraging students to read, The Book Whisperer (Jossey-Bass, 2009) and Reading in the Wild (Jossey-Bass, 2013). Donalyn co-hosts the monthly Twitter chat, #titletalk (with Nerdy Book Club co-founder, Colby Sharp) and the Best Practices Roots (#bproots) chat with Teri Lesesne. Donalyn launched the annual Twitter summer and holiday reading initiative, #bookaday. You can find her on Twitter at @donalynbooks or under a pile of books somewhere, happily reading.
This. So much, this. As someone who reads and writes for a living, it’s easy for me to forget about the need to read for pleasure, to give myself some quiet. To that end, I set aside time for purely pleasure reads that I don’t have to critique, review, or even talk about with anyone–they are just for me. In a world that can be so overwhelming and crazy and full of noise, reading is more important than it ever has been. A book is like a vacation that you can fit into your purse and your day.
Wishing you peaceful days ahead with many great books to read. 🙂
Thank you for the glimpse into “real life”. Love the quote from John Green. You and your tribe inspire many to persist in helping students become passionate readers.
I, too, am a better and saner person because of reading. Great reminder!!
Thank you for your honesty, I too find refuge in a good book!
a latte of blessings & giggles, Jeanie {coffee girl}
I can’t imagine how stressful your constant travels must be, but I sure am glad I heard you at Longwood this week. 💜
Traveling is exhausting, in and of itself, let alone non-stop. Thanks for all that you do, including sharing your knowledge and supporting other teachers. I hope you get some downtime at home before your school year starts!!
Sorry to hear of your rough travels..but I so enjoyed your story. And it only further proves to me, how much we love a personal story, a real life experience, to make a point. The enjoyment is in the details…protein bars, toilet paper, ranting to American Airlines. . and the peace when you opened a book and fell in. I love your humor!
Thank you for being so honest in sharing your travel struggles. Reading is a time for me to stop as well, to just be in my book, a form of meditation. You are an inspiration to follow through social media as you continue to forge ahead and fight for what you believe in; for all of us who believe just as you do. Thank you for sharing, for stopping to read, and for continuing on when your mind and body are ready.
Hang in there! We, the teachers, appreciate all that you do. You have made a difference in our lives and in the lives of thousands of children. So go get your Charmin in your bare feet and just relax. You so deserve it!
I am really enjoying this blog. Love when it comes up in my Facebook newsfeed! Thanks for great writing.
I am so frustrated trying to get certain teachers and administrators to comprehend the importance of reading for pleasure (meaning, escape, whether to or from the real or imaginary world). Unfortunately, one of the reasons these particular educators don’t understand is that they don’t read—–a fact that absolutely floored me, having come to the field of school librarianship later in life. Thank you for sharing your experiences, and for your wonderful books which I reread on a regular basis!
Loved this honest, heartfelt post. While in-person connection and collaboration is so important and inspiring, travel can be draining in every way. I’m so glad, Donalyn, to have met you during one of your summer travels and I hope we connect in person again soon. Can’t wait to read Ms. Bixby’s Last Day. And you know I understand the indignities of not having access to “good” toilet paper!
Thank you for sharing your honest thoughts. Travel can be a nightmare. I hope you are home and enjoying many good books and quiet time and the remainder of your much deserved summer vacation.
Exactly- you put into words what I feel every time I read! Thanks!
Donalyn, You are adorably human! Thank you SO much for this post. Rest, dear one. You deserve it. Megan (one of your followers)
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This is a beautiful piece that captures so much about the power of reading. Donalyn, you have a way of “complaining” about both the little things and the big things that reveals what a genuinely thoughtful, considerate person you are. I love everything about these words.
Ugh to all the travel woes, but so glad that the book and reading helped you through it. It soothes, enlightens, nourishes and takes us away. I love my books and I try to savor them. Here’s to lots more time for reading and better traveling moments ahead.
My heart goes out to you and how hard you’ve been working this summer despite the recent travel craziness! I’m looking forward to seeing you on Tuesday in KY and I’m praying for you for safe and stress-free travel!
Since I follow your literary adventures on Twitter, I knew you must have been at the end of your rope by the time you reached the Longwood event last week. However, your talk was professional, humorous, and inspiring to all of the educators gathered to learn from you. You were so gracious with book signings, advice, and support! Many thanks! Wishing you well and praying for travel relief as you continue your mission!
After religiously following ALL of your social media posts this summer from the comfort of my own home, would it be awful to admit I found comfort in hearing you are tired and a little homesick? You are obviously a superhero, but that’s why we love you so much — you’re also a mere mortal! Do enjoy curling up with a good book, escape, and recharge! Thank you for being such a wonderful inspiration and role model.
I love this Donalyn. I say this a lot to my administrators who complain when I give reading time to my Gifted students. “It’s the only time they can shut off the noise.” It’s also how I feel when I tuck into my bed with my book-friend each night. Thank you for saying it so beautifully. I plan to save the one.
People ask me how I got through the hellish year of my son’s cancer treatment. I tell them the truth: I survived it by reading. I didn’t write a single word, but I read constantly. And I’ll always feel a particular visceral connection to those books, and those authors, who got me through it. ( My son made it through the year by reading Game of Thrones– so big hugs to George R. R. Martin!!)
I dissolved on a family road trip with Mrs. Bixby — blissfully dissolved. What a gorgeous book. Thank you for tirelessly championing books and reading, Donalyn.
Beautiful!! We loved meeting you and listening to you in Boston; and we can wait to hear you again in California in November. Thank you for all you do to inspire us all.
I’ve been thinking about you (not to be creepy). As I follow you on FB and Twitter (and all the way to Boston for ILA), I wonder about how you are managing this schedule with such grace. You made an incredible “sacrifice” leaving the classroom so that your message, your voice, your candor can be in all of ours. Thank you. I private messaged you a while ago to ask how you are navigating the move from the classroom to ambassador, looking for some sage advice. I have “an” answer now — these books. These beautiful books are where so many of us go and for so many reasons: to feel beauty, to escape, to discover, to understand, to survive, to become. And here’s another answer — these teachers. These beautiful teachers. We turn to each other to feel supported, to be inspired, to survive, to become.Thank you, my dear teacher.
This is so true for me, reading as a necessary respite. Last night I had excessive-socializing-induced insomnia, and I thought of this post as I got up to read for a while, to quiet my mind so that I could sleep again.
We sure appreciate all you do to inspire us. Hope you get some downtime to sit in your favorite chair with a good book at home soon. It is my August goal to make time for this before the craziness of September. Good for the soul!
New people are refreshing and inspiring but travel can be torturous! I find solace in reading the longer I’m away from home (which is where I hope you are now.) Thank you for this honest post–to which many of us can obviously relate!
Travel is exhausting, no matter the reason. Wishing you some time to re-charge :). I loved Ms. Bixby too!
I LOVE all your words, but especially these today. Having just returned from a two-week international trip, I can sympathize with the nightmares that delays and airports can bring. Reading is about the peace and joy it can bring, first and foremost. Thank you for the reminder. I’m going to go read now!
FYI: I linked to this post in my Sunday Summary this week